It was, and still is, a sort of blame-the-victim framework, this insistence that women modify their presence in public space, or just give up and stay in, rather than we transform public space (or men) so that women have the right to walk down the street unharassed. The same blame has been applied to women in nearly every situation in which they are attacked by men, as a way of not blaming men.
Thank you Elle for letting me know of Solnit’s latest work, another slim volume of powerful feminist essays to follow last year’s impactful Men Explain Things to Me. From addressing that mother of all questions to celebrating a turning point in the women’s movement to an insightful review of the movie Giant, Solnit offers her usual thoughtful commentary on current feminist issues today. Witty, humorous, and yet sobering all at the same time, Solnit is the rare author who can make you laugh out loud and burst into tears all in the same paragraph. I can never wait to read what she offers next.
Love is a constant negotiation, a constant conversation; to love someone is to lay yourself open to rejection and abandonment; love is something you can earn but not extort.